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Why your woman is cheating?

Why your woman is cheating?

Who cheats more, men or women?

Research suggests that men are more likely to cheat in committed relationships. One 2016 study suggests that on average, 20% of men have cheated versus 13% of women. Interestingly, women in the 18-29 age group actually cheated slightly more than men. Though as the years go on, fewer women cheat

 while more men cheat, 

and the gap gets wider over time.”

Reasons women cheat in relationships

1. Sex

“Women appreciate good sex just like anyone else,” Nelson says. “Women cheat when they find a man or woman that turns them on.” If anyone tells you men cheat for sex and women cheat for emotion, she adds, they’re wrong.

A recent study published in the 1Journal of Sex Research1 found that, although men are still more likely to cheat for sexual variety, it’s still among the top three reasons women cheat.

2. They’re unhappy with their current relationship

The same study found another top reason women cheat is that they’ve fallen out of love with their current partner. Even if the love is still there, in general a woman who’s unhappy in her relationship may be more inclined to cheat. Whether because of anger, home, financial problems, family trouble—the list goes on—they may feel cheating will offer them what their current relationship isn’t.

“Women cheat because the relationship at home is cooling off,” Nelson says. “If there is tension or boredom at home, excitement on the side can be a distraction, a temptation too great to avoid.”

3. It was just a mistake

The third top reason for women cheating, according to the study? It was just situational. Things like being drunk and “not thinking clearly.”

“Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes, affairs happen because of opportunity,” Nelson adds. “

 Women can act impulsively 

and then regret it.” In other words, it’s entirely possible there isn’t much deeper meaning aside from an opportunity that they weren’t able to pass up in the moment.

4. They’re craving intimacy

Whether it’s physical or emotional, intimacy is one of those needs we all want to see met. If a woman isn’t feeling intimately fulfilled in her relationship, and someone comes along who exhibits that type of intimacy, there will be an attraction.

Some older research2 has found women tend to have a stronger emotional connection to the new person they’re cheating with than male cheaters do, suggesting romance is part of the cheating equation for women.

5. The new person made them feel special

Sometimes people cheat because the new person gave them a new feeling or made them feel like someone else. “Women report that an

 affair lover makes them feel special 

, sexy, and adored, and that attention is hard to ignore, no matter what their spouse does at home,” Nelson says.

6. They’re experiencing low self-esteem

Low self-esteem can create a desire for outside validation, psychologist Margaret Paul, Ph.D., explains. This might be particularly true if the person isn’t receiving validation from their current partner, but Paul notes it’s really the lack of self-love that can push someone to cheat.

“Mainly what I’ve seen,” Paul tells mbg, “is people cheat when they’re not taking responsibility for themselves or taking care of their own feelings—when they don’t develop the ability to speak up for themselves in their current relationship. They’re abandoning themselves in numerous ways and because of that they’re needy for outside attention.”

In this way, she notes, the instance of cheating or an affair may be less about the attention someone gives them and more about the attention they aren’t giving themselves.

7. They’re using it to numb or cope with difficult feelings

Cheating may also indicate there’s something within themselves or the relationship that they’re not dealing with. Paul compares cheating to turning to alcohol or drugs, in that people might turn to any of these behaviors as a way to run away from their feelings instead of directly addressing them.

8. They want a breakup or a change

Sometimes people cheat because they want their relationship to end, and cheating seems like an easier way to break it than to directly confront their partner.

But Nelson also points out that sometimes people cheat because they want something in their current relationship to change: “Women cheat to get out of a marriage, or to stay in one,” she says.

5 money talks to have with your partner before your wedding day

Financial conversations to have pre-marriage [Credit: Financial Guru]

People in relationships sometimes avoid the subject of money, because nobody ever wants to be seen as a paper-chaser or gold digger.

Discussing money and expressing an unhidden curiosity about your partner’s finances is not the same as being a gold digger, a parasite or an opportunist.

As a matter of fact, if you truly love someone you will be concerned about every facet of their life, and they will be open with you because relationships are very much about honesty.

While a great deal of tact is needed while trying to get these information, it still has to be done, especially when the relationship is getting serious and both partners begin to commit to each other.

When that time comes, these are five unavoidable topics you must discuss.

1. Are we financially compatible?

The answer to this can be gotten by asking and observing.

When a relationship seems to be heading somewhere great, partners need to sit down and have a conversation about their finances, the differences and how to reconcile them.

For instance, where a partner chooses to save a certain percentage of his income and the other thinks it’s too low because they place more premium on saving, then they’d have to reach a compromise on that.

2. Are you in debt?

If the answer is yes, then the next logical questions are “how much debt are you in? Are they manageable debts? What’s the repayment plan? When do they mature?” etc.

You could also ask what the debt was acquired for. It helps to know that you are not marrying someone in the habit of indebting themselves for frivolous, unnecessary things.

3. What are your financial aims?

This question is as important as the cliché question “where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

You need to know your partner’s aims, their money habits and whether or not you can align with that. [Source: Video Block]

4. Joint or separate accounts?

Never ever get too shy or overly sensitive to ask this. If you are open to the idea and your partner is not, then the best thing to do is to agree on a certain percentage of your individual incomes, and deposit it in an account.

Do it in the name if your kids if you have to. As a matter of fact, you should do it for them if not for anything else.

5. How do we settle bills?

Who pays the kids’ school fees? Who buys groceries? How do you pay for your home? Who gets clothes for the kids? Who settles the rent?

Here are conversations you need to have, too. Are they going to be done together, or only one of you will bear these burdens?

Better have this conversations at the appropriate time and discuss them well so you can be sure that you and yours are on the same page… you know, before it becomes too late or too difficult to make any meaningful change

If Your Partner Has One Of These Jobs, Your Fiancée Will Cheat You For Sure

There are different types of infidelities. Some are a here-I-get-you-here-I-kill you, others are only virtual and others remain over time

The latter are the worst, not only for the deceived but also for the unfaithful: they increase the chances that you will end up falling in love with your lover.

And where are lasting adulterous relationships forged? Yes, you are right, at work.

If your partner spends too much time in the office or attending to work matters, be suspicious. And do it even more if possible if your sweetheart works in the financial sector (bankers or stockbrokers), is a pilot, doctor or nurse.

A survey conducted by the Victoria Milan website, dedicated to married people seeking an affair, has found this after conducting a survey of 5,658 women.

Why have an adventure at work? Although it has its drawbacks, there are many people who have an affair with a business partner. Research revealed that two in three adulterous women (65%) have love affairs in the office as it makes their job more exciting and fun.

Work is also a very simple place to flirt, since it facilitates the emergence of attraction between people. Despite all this, the majority of the unfaithful (85%) would not recommend anyone to have an idyll in the job.

The worst thing about having a relationship with your partner? Having to see him every day, out of obligation, even if things have not gone well. There is also the danger of discovering the relationship, which worries one in five women (21%).

However, only 10% are concerned that the entire office will find out about their affair, as they believe that it would not affect their professional progression in the company at all.

In fact, the survey showed that we are more willing to live in the moment and enjoy life than concerned with advancing our careers.

The poll clearly shows that even though there is a risk of losing your job, having an affair at work makes life much more enjoyable for both parties.

Most infidels who choose not to mix business with pleasure do so because they have fear of being discovered by the rest, which would make them feel uncomfortable

If his age ends in ‘9’ he will be unfaithful to you

We already know that bankers, doctors and pilots are the most unfaithful. And that, in addition, their lovers are usually coworkers.

But there is one more fact: if your age of the aforementioned ends at ‘9’, the chances of being unfaithful increase exponentially, according to a recent study that is echoed by ‘Daily Mail’.

Thus, people who are 29, 39, 49 or 59 years old are more likely to cheat on their partners and make decisions than to change the course of their lives.

They change decades, which makes them rethink the discourse of their lives.

Study author Adam Alter of New York University says that “people audit the meaning of their lives as they approach a new decade.” Normally, these people tend to conclude that everything is going well for them or that, on the contrary, their lives are meaningless, which leads them to start an extramarital relationship.

The deceived always wins

If after reading this you have come to the conclusion that your partner is hitting you with another, you will like this. A recent study found that people who have been cheated have it better than those who have cheated, and of course, much more than those who have stayed with the unfaithful boyfriend or girlfriend.

In addition, *** people tend to show a better ability to detect suspicious behavior, as noted in the survey of 5,906 participants in 96 countries.

If, despite all this, you decide to continue with your partner, we recommend that you answer the following questions:

Would you like to continue with the other person if you managed to trust them again?

Have you left anger and resentment behind and are you ready? to move forward?

Is there a positive attitude of the other?

Can you imagine being happy with him or her?

And can you forgive what happened?

The last one is the key. If you are able to forgive, really go ahead

5 mistakes women make that keep them single longer

Everyone wants to be loved and being part of a couple is still the societal norm that most people aspire to. In the quest to couple, dating rules are being relaxed and women especially are making some fatal mistakes that are keeping them in the dating pool longer. This article will reveal five of those mistakes.


1. Becoming too Possessive and Expecting Commitment Behavior Before a Commitment is Established.

If you have just met what seems like a great guy and you’ve had three or four dates, please don’t feel like you have the right to question his whereabouts, go through his phone or search his home. That’s too scary! It is a signal to the average man to run. This behavior will make him think you are unstable. Slow it down and learn to control your emotions, because becoming too possessive may end the relationship before it starts.

During this early relationship phase, most guys are just smelling the flowers and trying to decide which one to pick or IF he wants to pick one. Just because he has shown interest in you does not mean that he has forgotten about all the other women in his life. If he begins to feel genuine affection for you, he may indeed delete his little black book, but it could take a while. Thinking that he has immediately given up all his options is naive.

Instead of expecting commitment behavior, use this phase of the relationship to get to know him. Instead of wondering what he does with his days and nights or who he is talking to or texting, I suggest that you focus on getting to know who is in front of you. Determine if he is who he presents himself to be or is he presenting to you a carefully crafted facade, meant to deceive you. You should also focus on keeping your options open and continuing your search for the love you deserve.

Until the two of you have come to a consensus that you want to commit to an exclusive relationship, do not expect a commitment or commitment behavior. Just enjoy the relationship for what it is. Don’t assume that it is a committed relationship when all the signs point to a hook-up or friends with benefits relationship.

You are NOT in a committed relationship until a clear statement of commitment has been expressed and the terms have been mutually agreed upon. It should not be a secret or an implied commitment. If the two of you are in a committed relationship, his friends and family, as well as your own, should be aware of it. Bottom line…only expect commitment behavior when one has not been clearly established.


2. Entering each relationship thinking it will lead to marriage

Each relationship has a reason, season and a lesson attached to it. Some relationships come to teach you things you need to know before you find “the one.” Then, of course, there are those that help you identify what you want and don’t want in a relationship. Still others allow you to work out your childhood dysfunction. And, thankfully, there is a smaller subset of lasting and “till death do you part” relationships sealed by a lifetime commitment and marriage. Before you offer your heart to someone, analyze the relationship and determine what type of relationship it is.

Approach the getting to know you process as if you are entering school on the first day of first grade. You don’t spend your first day of school planning the graduation party or senior prom. There are lessons learned along the way. If you enter first grade with only graduation on your mind you’re going to miss all the snacks, naps, education, plays, summer breaks, getting your first locker in middle school, your first crush, your second crush and your third. You are going to miss getting sent to the principal’s office, pranks, practical jokes, cheerleader and volleyball tryouts, winning the spelling bee and getting all A’s on your report card. There’s a lot of learning that occurs between first grade and graduation and there’s a lot of living, loving and learning between the first date and the wedding date. Let the relationship naturally mature. Think of it as an adventure and if it doesn’t lead to a wedding day, you will have had fun along the way and hopefully some great stories to share.


3. Seeing what you want to see instead of what’s there.

There is an old adage that says, “Hindsight is 20/20.” The goal is to have your love vision be 20/20 not only in hindsight but also from the initial meetings and conversations. 20/20 love vision is accomplished by reading the signs and seeing what’s really there instead of settling for smoke and mirrors and what you want to see.


Chris Rock says that in the beginning of a relationship “you never meet the true person you meet their representative.” You have to amass the skills necessary to see past the representative to the real person. To keep from being hurt over and over again, you must be willing recognize and embrace the facts as they are and not interject your own romantic notations and fairy tales into the situation

5 reasons why fighting is good in a relationship

First things first, this article is not about toxic, abusive


 relationships 

.

We’re talking here about healthy


 relationships 

and ‘normal’ lovers’


 fights 

, which to a large extent is to be naturally expected, and as this article tries to prove, needed.

Here are five reasons why…

There’s a very chance that if you exposed the whole of yourself to your partner, there will be one or two things about you that they will not be too happy about, hence the need for a change.

If you can voice your concern, stand up for your opinion, especially about something you’re not comfortable about, and argue with your partner about it, it proves that you’re honest enough and actually willing to make the relationship work.

On the other hand, you could always pretend at all times that all is fine when you are actually not cool with anything at all. And really, that’s just totally uncool.

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As opposed to an abusive relationship [which you should never stay in],


 fights 

in healthy


 relationships 

are symmetrical arguments where both partners are free to express their discontent at each other. If you’re not afraid to let your partner know what they’re doing wrong, then it means you’re at a point where you both are not scared or intimidated by each other; and that, dear friend, is a really good place to be in your relationship.

Not only does a fight help correct your own defects, it also helps you point out your partner’s faults and vice-versa, and the cycle of correcting each other and growing as people goes on.

Wondering how that works, right? Ok, picture this; several years down the line, you and your partner are now closer than ever, and you are at the best place to be in your relationship; but at first, it was not like that. You were always arguing and correcting and ironing out things. Eventually, you get to perfectly understand each other, and then, you can look back at the old days and smile at how far you have come now.

When all is said and done, what matters more than the fight itself is how you resolve it. If you can get off your high-horse, apologies to each other and effectively resolve serious arguments, then you can be sure that you’re in it for the long run and can make this relationship work against all odds.

What is massage therapy?

Massage involves rubbing and putting pressure on muscles, connective tissues, tendons and ligaments. When massage is used to improve someone’s health, it is known as massage therapy.

Massage therapy can reduce stress and anxiety, help with pain, relax the muscles and rehabilitate injuries. For many healthy people with no chronic conditions, massage is simply enjoyable.

Massage is mainly thought of as a complementary or natural therapy offered by massage clinics or wellness spas. Many people find massage immediately calming and relaxing. Massage reduces levels of cortisol (a stress inducing hormone), while increasing other hormones that have a positive effect on wellbeing (including dopamine and serotonin).

Massage can also be used to treat problems with muscles, tendons and ligaments. Massage can be used to address other health problems including:

back pain

neck or shoulder pain

headache

osteoarthritis

depression and anxiety

digestive disorders

strains or soft tissue injuries

sports injuries

arthritis

anxiety and depression

addiction

Hospitals are increasingly offering massage therapy to help people cope with illnesses like cancer, heart disease or chronic pain.

What are the different types of massage therapy?

Swedish: The top layers of muscles are kneaded with soft, long strokes, or the muscles are hit or tapped. This can relieve muscle tension and may help after an injury. Learn more about Swedish massage.

Pregnancy: This is used to reduce stress, swelling, muscle and joint pain that sometimes appear during pregnancy. Learn more about pregnancy massage.

Remedial: This is used to treat damaged or painful muscles, tendons, ligaments or connective tissues. Massage aids the body’s healing and helps to restore function. Learn more about remedial massage.

Sports: Developed to help athletes in training, sports massage increases flexibility and prevents injuries. It is also used after an injury or strain. Learn more about sports massage.

Neuromuscular therapy: Problem areas are manipulated to treat chronic pain, tender muscles, circulation, trapped nerves, problems with posture or injuries caused by repetitive movements.

Deep tissue: Slow strokes are used to put pressure on muscles or tendons deep under the skin. This helps with specific trouble spots such as muscle injuries or back sprains.

Shiatsu: Pressure is applied with the fingers to specific parts of the body called acupressure points.

Reflexology: The therapist uses hands, fingers and thumbs to stimulate certain areas of the feet.

Hot stone: The therapist places warm stones on certain parts of the body to soothe and relax muscles.

What are the risks of massage therapy?

Massage is not a replacement for assessment and care by a doctor. It is also important to let your doctor know if you are trying massage to reduce the symptoms of a health issue. Your doctor can help you determine which type of massage may be helpful.

A Woman That Loves You Will Display These 7 Signs In The Relationship

1. She makes you grin by actively seeking out new and interesting ways to interact with you and bring a smile to your face. The woman is of the opinion that your contentment and happiness are just as vital as her own. Hold her tightly and don’t let go if she engages in any of these behaviors.

2. She pays attention to what you have to say and asks: “Has it ever seemed like you were talking to yourself when conversing with certain individuals?” There is more to it than just sitting in front of you and taking in what you have to say.

3. She takes the time to hear you out, engages in conversation with you, probes you with inquiries, and offers solutions to the issues you’re facing.

4. She makes you a priority The distinction between a woman who likes you and a woman who loves you is that the latter will not only show that you are a priority, but she will prove it every day. A girl who likes you will tell you that you are a priority, but a woman who loves you will prove it every day. will keep an eye out for you, and she will make finding you her top priority. She won’t feel embarrassed to come clean about it. She won’t be coy about how much she cares for you.

5. She respects you If the girl you’re dating loves you, she will behave in a way that demonstrates her regard for you on a daily basis. Even if you have a disagreement, the respect between you will not diminish. She will be pleased with you and boast about your accomplishments in front of her loved ones and close friends.

6. She inspires you to accomplish more The joy of being with the right woman is that the two of you may develop and mature together. Love is more than just holding hands and kissing on the cheek. Love implies being there for one another to help them realize their goals. When two people love one another, they take an interest in each other’s aspirations and work together to realize them.

7. She is kind to you: The kind of kindness that you feel for a person who is truly significant to you is the kind that she shows to you. It’s the kind of attention that comes from having feelings and being passionate about something. You may expect a loving touch from her as well as a warm embrace from her. You will get the impression that she is the right woman for you while you are around her.